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A. O. Harrison (Mrs.) True life story

Where do I begin to tell my story. Let me start from my desire as a very little sickly girl who aspired to be a lawyer but it was as though the legions in hell where on assignment and unleashed to ensure I never got called to bar.

Some how despite ill health I made progress from one class to another, I remember vividly that when I entered secondary school, for most of my Christmas or festive season I will pick a suit preparing for what was ahead of me.

I refused to give up, I pressed against all odds, Jamb said it was jamb, is it SSCE and GCE palava? The amusing thing there is I spoke queens english but had to tarry for almost three (3) years. The result I finally got English I added physics.

Before the result came an angel in the form of a human my father encountered and explained my predicament to advices that in the mean time while I wait for my result, I should come over to study Diploma in Law.

This was how on the 15th day of December, 1999 I went for lectures. I never knew where the school was until that day as I was given a special treatment. The form prior to resumption was purchased and brought to me, I filled it and it was submitted with out stress on me.

I almost got thrown out of the Diploma program as it was barely a day to Matriculation I was sent my GCE result. It was not funny at all my experience and the stress of getting my documents in the different office file before matriculation day.

As I narrowly escaped and survived 100 Level, 200 Level saluted me with ill health, I remembered severally I would slum and awake to find myself in hospital on drip. Thank God for nice folks who were always around at such emergencies.

First semester 200 level I only photocopied notes and read and I scaled through, 2nd semester looked better but for one evening strolling to my hostel an accident I escaped from resulted in a broken bone. I passed all courses except one and the reason the lecturer gave was that I did not make 75% attendance despite all medical records before him both from the school health center, government hospital and private clinic. I had to repeat 200 Level. I ensured I sat through all the classes this was the third year.

At this point I wrote both jamb and applied for direct entry but to no avail. And I was determined law or nothing. Though I had developed other skills which are beneficial to  me today. I had to proceed to a private university as another two years of no admission went by swiftly.

The experience of Diploma days framed my approach in my degree days. At entry into degree the school refused my direct entry application that 200 level was full so I entered with Jamb from 100 level. From 300 level to 500 level political science missing score/script surfaced. In my 500level another storm blew but God helped me. On the day of my validictory session from university my mum said “At last” when I walked up to her with my plaques.

Law school list came but my name was not listed, I remembered praying and called a friend who was already at the law school and she told me they had resumed lecture. I refused fainting, I told her I will join her there. About a month after, another list came and behold I was in the number.

Law school exam was another trying phase as I took ill, I wrote and prayed that God will help me and he did. I passed though I felt I should have done better.

My call to bar was slated for 30th November, 2010 but while going about my clearance I became feverish. I pressed till the day of my call, I barely struggled to eat the final dinner after been handed the certificate. I knew I had to stay strong to put my name in the role at the supreme court. Some how I did but after then only God knows.

Am happy to be alive 11year post call, ten years after, am making progress, the happenings of the past are now history, I enjoy my present adventure.

If it had not been for God who was on my side?

Have you ever gotten to a crossroad before now? Where you had to stay at that spot for hours not knowing which route to take. In life you will discover that a physical Crossroad is far better and easier than the mental crossroad.

A crossroad is an intersection of two or more roads (physical).  However, the mental crossroad is when you get to a point of making a crucial decision which has far reaching consequences with different options on your table.

A crossroad is a point in a man’s life where he stops and looks at the various options and from where he/she is standing tries to determine the consequences of each route if taken.

Sometimes you would wish your crossroad is presented as different meals on a buffet  table, where you can pick based on it’s presentation, but it’s a lot harder than that. 

A crossroad can present itself at various stages of one’s life, it could be the way forward after graduation, it could present itself making a choice of who to spend the rest of one’s life with, it could be whether to stay or call if quit at your present work place, it could be what to do when you are unemployed or when you are low in cash, it could be you faced with retirement and we can go on listing as it is inconclusive.

When you get to a cross road in life I recommend you count the cost carefully, by sitting at that junction, count the cost both short term and long term goals, get rid of fear and pray about the next move by asking the Holy Spirit to help you by showing you the path of peace. Then take steps onward and forward.

See every crossroad as an adventure into something new and exciting, it gives room for mistake but don’t stop at the mistake for so long, if you fall at your crossroad dust yourself up and move on. See light at the end of the route. Be hopeful for the best is before you. Don’t give up by calling it quit because quitters never win.

Love is built on relationship and relationship grows by the commitment of two persons in love with each other, but in recent times some persons have found themselves in One Chance vehicle.

A one chance vehicle is one that does not  care or guarantee the safety of the passage picked up. Even if the passenger gets to it’s destination at last, something valuable would have left him or her.

A lot of folks get into one sided love relationship with a  that love grows over time despite the red light flagged from the onset. Only to live with misery all day long.

A one sided love places commitment and responsible on the party that loves while the other party is nonchalant enjoying the benefits that flows from the other party who loves but ignores giving back. This action breeds depression and frustration. 

One of the effects of one sided love is that it even affects the self image of the one who gives love. At this point I hear some of my friends say life is not balance, but it can be if the parties in the relationship can both sit down and commit to make it work.

A commitment by both parties to make it work, playing their roles, showing love mutually, listening to and meeting the other parties needs can improve and even go a long way to heal the hurts of yesterday.

My brothers and sisters love is good but it cannot be forced out, it’s difficult to teach an old man or woman to love what he does not love from childhood. So also it is difficult to get someone to love you when he or she does not love you. 

It’s good to dream and build castles in the air in the name of love or about love. Wake up love is not dream it is hard work. 

Don’t go for the impossible, love is not blind in this century that we now live in though it was in centuries past. Wait for LOVE it will come, but don’t jump into a one-sided relationship with a view that it will get better with time.

I have seen relationships and marriages fail on the note of one-sided love and you can’t help it because no matter how hard you try who nor love nor love. It is difficult to heal or mend a broken heart 💔 the scare will be there forever. Look before you leap, a stitch in time saves nine.

When most people say I do they least expect that the marriage union will ever face the rocks. To some the rocks starts as early as the night of their union grossly caused by lack of understanding.

Gradually the different phases in marriage begins to unfold they tend to forget the vow for better or Worse that is likened to the rose flower and its thorns. However, some of the phases could be life threatening especially where domestic violence is at play.

A very deadly stage in marriage is when a spouse falls into depression or emotional trauma. It takes a miracle to rescue such a person. Signs of depression starts from being unhappy to becoming very miserable.

A lot of married folks when out of their home tend to present their relationship as perfect. They fake it to make it presentable. Some put in serious effort to make it work and eventually, their rose fully blooms. But some no amount of make up covers the divide.

Those who made it work by overcoming their challenges are appreciated by all who sees it over  time so let’s learn to encourage couples when they are faced with trying times to patiently workout their differences. 

Asking them to pack their bags and quit most times is the resolve of many without putting the children of the union into consideration this is an error. The children never asked to be put in this situation so please before you pack that bag think of the future of your children.

Failure in marriage is failure in ministry and it is anti-God agenda. Through patience ands wisdom is a house built, let’s build our homes and marriages. It is the foundation of a standard and functional society.

One would be wondering where are we moving to?

The youths are moving Nigeria in a right path where justice is not for some selected few as put forth in the novel Animal farm by George Orwell where some animals were more equal than some.

The protest started with #EndSars but the term sars now represents a whole lot to include but not limited to end police brutality, end inequality, a cry for a functional system of government, accountability, upgrade of our academic curriculum, increase in salary civil and public servant, set up standard medical facilities with upto date clinical gadgets…cut down of unjustified excess salary of a selected class of elite

The cry of Nigerian youths is simply asking that a reform be carried out to affect all sectors. Where citizens would be treated as one.  Where they will be able to speak out and their request will be heard and attended to.

The Nigerian youth who are the leaders of tomorrow has suffered immersly and had never been taken seriously. 

One of the best things that happened to the Nigerian youths was the advent of modern technology in the name of phones which made the world a small global village where messages travelled far and wide in split seconds.

The use of the phone helped in the exposure of the ills in different part of the country, It became the initial tool for campaigns against bad governance before the outbreak of protest where just like the ants in scripture having no leader but organised itself in season, the Nigerian youths came up with a well structured protest on the streets of different states within and outside Nigeria.

The protest have been ongoing for days which has been like thorns to some people but have presented itself as a blessing to many others.  It has given hope to the future of other Nigerians.  It has shown that the force of unity in love is stronger than physical weapons.

The protesters buried tribalism, religious and ethnic difference…, and has shown that one voice with a vision is for a better Nigeria They cry out; Our lives matter 5/5, We move, Sòró Soke (Proverbs 31:8-9).

It’s no longer things fall apart with this protest, by the day it unveils no retreat no surrender, in rain and sun shine, whether wounded or not, speak out, we move.

Where do you you think we are moving to?

Today I was worried. 

So many issues on my mind and the sad part was that I couldn’t think through one issue before another one cropped up in my head

I was exhausted from thinking, mentally drained and physically angry. 

when I had enough, I picked up my
note pad and I wrote “the things that bothered me”

and immediately I commenced writing out the things that were on my mind. I was truthful about them after all the note was to myself. 

After writing a few line

s it hit me so clearly and I smiled, I paused and wrote at the heading “1 YEAR FROM NOW, THEY ALL WONT MATTER”, I went further to write today’s date even as I went back to unburden my mind to my paper but this time around I wrote action points. 

You see, truly they all won’t matter a year from now, scriptures run through my mind of the assurance that God cannot leave me stranded, how my steps are ordered of God, how all his promises towards me are yes and Amen, how he loves me and how everything will be fine as it was in the boat when Jesus calmed the storm. 

Am keeping my focus on Jesus, but like Peter sometimes the storm is so much I can’t help but look at it. But I don’t want to sink so am training my eyes, head and heart to keep my focus on Jesus who asked me to step into the water. 

He won’t let me drown, if I sink he will catch me (that’s how loving God is to me). And if it ever seems like he is sleeping during the storm I am reassured that if I call him; he will answer. 

Never failed me and he won’t start now.

dont worry

I was told stories of love shown by men to ladies in the name of love that ended up in emotional truama.

I thought those type of love where tales that  ended in those day, it appears people still fall in love in present times Sha.

I asked a friend if he can be in love with a girl and without bride price or any form of marrital ties, buy her a good land worth millions. My friends respond is that his eyes are not blind, that his love is awake and his eyes are seeing clearly. One would wonder why that is his position.

Growing up we heard stories of men who train ladies through secondary and University as investment on their to be wife, but most of them ended up heart broken as the ladies after University chose a different part in the name of exposure or open eye.  Will you blame the ladies if you found yourself in such circumstances do you think you will do otherwise.

Knowing that this thing called love changes with time, environment, comfort… And the only constant thing in life is change.

Till date no tangible reasons are given to these men whose heart where broken and their investment lost. Did they work in error in the name of love.

 All in the name of love one of my friend being troubled by his girlfriend bought a land for her from his sweat, from his hard labour by implication he is the opposite of Shell staff. He intends to get married to her but he has not gotten money for the wedding.

Please how much is bride price in your village? And how much be land for your side? If the girl nor get underlying intention, land and wedding which one cost pass?

Truth be told if small problem arises between them who go loose? The said land is not jointly owned o. It is in the name of miss… Bro nor get any land for even village self, if the bro na your brother would you be happy? will you not suspect he has eaten something.

Some men are still angels when it comes to loving, I know some babes are wishing this bro was theirs. If he can buy land when they are not married, that means when they get married he will buy private jet if God bless his hustle.

Some love are more than some.

Some people are created love personified.

What will you do in the name of love.